Effort

I'm curious to hear how effort plays apart in all of your friendships. Once college ends there comes a time when you begin working full time and you no longer spend your days in constant contact. Life tends to get messy and there are always meetings to attend, errands to run and when you get that little amount of downtime, it's easy to understand why you want to spend it sitting on the couch in complete silence with only the sounds of trashy reality television playing in the background. 

Within the last year I've seen a particular change in a few friendships and it's definitely caused me to re-evaluate what I want in my life and whether I wish to move forward with certain people. I think the primary issue that tends to frustrate me more than other things is effort. At what point do we stop making an effort for someone who clearly makes no effort on their end. I have plenty of friends who I wont see for weeks but the second we reunite its like old times, and thats okay with me because everyone is busy. But I still really appreciate the person who despite being busy for 4 weeks in a row, calls me on the 5th week and says "Hey, I haven't seen you in forever, lets go get drinks". Moral of the story is, I don't think friendship is a one way street.

I normally have the mentality of inviting everyone when I plan something, my mother always gave me the advice "don't give them anything to throw in your face later on." But when time after time I invite someone someplace and they choose not to reply or they always have an excuse- at what point do I stop calling? Also at what point do I stop inviting someone who clearly has different behavior ideas as myself. Overall, this post is mainly about letting go of those who don't really impact my life in a positive manner. I want to surround myself with people who make me smile and show true effort in maintaining a healthy relationship. Unfortunately this may mean that I have to let go of friendships that have been in existence since I was a child, which makes me sad. 

Side note: after re-reading this post it sounds super depressing which is the opposite of what I am actually feeling. I need to reinforce that I have amazing friends who I could not imagine my life without. It's just this strange effect of growing up where we all experience this shift in friends and we become more aware of what we want. 

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How important is effort in friendships?

xoxo